Tapping To Reduce Toddler Meltdowns

Tapping or Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) is a healing tool I have used for nearly a decade. At first, it was something I only did in therapy sessions with the therapist walking me through the process. As I became more comfortable with the technique, I started using it by myself at home, in the shower, at a stoplight, wherever and whenever.


Tapping is one of  my top three self-healing techniques that I use all. the. time. In the beginning, I used it for anxiety and fear based emotions to help me function better emotionally, especially when I was pregnant with Penelope. Sometimes the only way I got through the day and not be paralyzed with fear that I was going to lose her was by doing tapping. I eventually began using it for food cravings and to heal financial patterns that were holding me back. The results have been amazing.

And I also use it with Penelope. When she is angry, frustrated, scared, or overwhelmed, we tap to bring the emotions down and get her back to a balanced homeostasis.

One of the most profound places we have used tapping together has been at Disney. As you probably know, from being the awesome, dedicated and loyal reader that you are, Penelope has Sensory Processing Disorder. SPD makes places like Disney a NIGHTMARE instead of the happiest place on earth. Tapping is one of the tools I use to help keep Penelope from getting overwhelmed and having a meltdown and to be able to really enjoy all the stimulation that Disney has.

Here is a quick video I made on what tapping looks like for us to reduce anxiety about Disney:

For more information about tapping, I highly recommend the book The Tapping Solution. The author, Nick Ortner, is hosting an online Tapping Summit RIGHT NOW that you can access for free till March 5th, or you can just purchase it all to assimilate at your own pace.

Tapping can be applied to any areas of your life that you want to change or heal.   Tapping has helped me immensly in my ability to heal and be successful in all areas of my life. I am excited for you to learn this technique and apply it to your life!

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  1. That’s so cool!! Would you do the same spots on a baby? My son is teething and has croup and feels too yucky to calm down and sleep….maybe this would help!

  2. this is so great… i’d never heard of tapping but i’m excited to learn more now.

    and i loved how much love radiates from you while you talk to — and even just look at — penelope. what a lucky girl she is to have such a wonderful mama.

    xx sara (@bixbixbix on IG!)

  3. Awww– I loved watching you interact with your daughter! You are obviously a fantastic mom. I have never heard of tapping, but I’m going to look into it now. Thanks!

  4. I LOVE this….thanks for posting. I use tapping in my everyday life and have had the most amazing results. I’m going to pass this post along to my sister, her son has SPD.

  5. Interesting! I’ve never head of tapping. From watching the video, it looks to me as just a form of distraction. But I’m sure it’s much deeper than that. If I had time right now I’d do a little research and I’d read through some of your links…but as it is, I’m running out the door to soccer. Ah well, maybe later ;)

  6. My son also has SPD and crowds and noisy places are a challenge. I would like to learn more and also could you share the other protective measures you said you used? I think this can really help. He is 3 and will it still work if he doesn’t tap exactly as instructed or should you start out tapping for them? Thanks, Stephanie.

  7. taylor spangler says:

    wow. that is not what I expected. when I first read tapping, I instantly thought what of people do as a nervous habit with their feet and hands. I have adhd and when people nervously tap I get instant anxiety and distracted and irritable. This look like it could help maybe. I was in Target the other day and a child was screaming and the mother was pushing the cart and ignoring the meltdown. I was so overwhelmed by the sound and annoyed that I got tears in my eyes and anxious. I could have done this then. :) thanks for sharing. Also, Penelope is lovely and sweet.

  8. Thank you for sharing. I have been thinking about introducing this technique to my daughter. she’s 16 months and has a meltdown over anything. May I ask, did you introduce it to P by consistently doing it until she mirrored you or did you put her hands in the right places. My R freaks when you touch or grab her hands during a meltdown.
    Anyway, again, thanks for all you do and share.

    • She just watched me for awhile. As with anything we want to instill or teach or children we have to model it and live it first. But yes, when she was younger I would tap on her body for her or hold her hand while I tapped on my body. And even know, when when we use tapping to help her go to sleep, I will gently tap the points for her a she is laying down in bed. :)

  9. Hey Lady! So, I wanted to tell you about a success story after seeing your tapping video from MBL – my 5 year old gets a little overwhelmed in some stores and at bedtime, then I saw your video. Holy moly does it work! So last night, we ended up in the ER – because of a raging ear infection, and he was crying hysterically – he was in my lap tapping himself and telling himself to calm down and that the doctors will help him… to calm down!!!! Thank you so so much for sharing your life, your heart and your knowledge with us!! It totally means the world to this mama!!

  10. Julia McMillen says:

    Gosh, I’d been doing this technique for years and never knew what it was called, I just knew that it would fix my chronic migraines and calm me down

  11. I wish i had heard about this years ago.

  12. Greatest_Light says:

    Wow! I didn’t think it would be effective but while watching the video I followed your technique and found myself somewhat relaxed!
    A beautiful, soothing video! Thanks for sharing.
    I’m so excited I found your website as it’s really helping to find ways to heal.

  13. I recently discovered calming effects of tapping by accident and intuition when I calmed my 90lb Ridgeback from uncontrollable shaking at the vets office. I envisioned “beating” the nervous energy out of her. Btw, as a new mom, I just love your site. Especially since I began my spiritual journey following the birth of my daughter 10 months ago, I meditate religiously with crystals. So your site really speaks to me. Thank you!

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