Two years ago, I implemented a new way to do New Year’s Resolutions in hopes that it would give me a higher success rate of actually accomplishing my goals. In the past, I would write a 4 page diatribe of everything that I wanted to improve on in my life and then at the end of the year I would feel like a failure because I didn’t accomplish everything.
Then I switched to this system of only picking a handful of things to work on, one in each area of my life (Spiritual, Physical, Emotional, Mental and Financial Health) and it has worked so much better! And I love using my little printable, framing it and keeping it highly visible on my desk. I truly believe that you need to review your goals daily to be able to actually accomplish them.
Here is a run down of how 2013 goals went for me and my new goals for 2014.
Spiritual Health. Last year in spiritual health, my goal was to go to church every Sunday, and it took me almost all year, but I finally got into the habit of going every Sunday unless I am out of town. I am feeling pretty good about this, it was on my goal list for 2012 as well, so it actually took me two years to accomplish, but I did it and that’s what matters.
For 2014, I want to focus on my personal relationship with God and explore in-depth why bad things happen to good people. Rationally and intellectually, I understand that God has a plan and that He isn’t punishing me when bad things happen to me. Instead, bad things can be seen as gifts and life lessons that will make me a better person and more capable of living out my life’s purpose and being of service to Him. But I have some work to do. I want to heal the part of me that feels that God doesn’t love me (because if he loved me, he wouldn’t of let anything happen to me). I want to heal the part of my heart that doesn’t understand the reason all those bad things have happened to me.
Physical Health. Last year, my physical health goals were to further reduce my grain and gluten consumption. I did pretty well, except for the month we moved. I am now 100% gluten free and about 80% grain free. In 2014, I would like to be 100% grain free and I want to focus my energy on healing my food allergies and sensitivities, so I feel better, reduce overall inflammation and prepare my body even more for a possible baby.
Mental Health. In 2013, my mental health goals were to make sure I don’t get overambitious building Mama and Baby Love and to keep my priorities straight. I did a good job of this, for sure. I remembered the hard lessons I had to learn when I had my yoga studio, and kept it on my mind what happens when you work too hard and neglect other areas of life. I kept everything in pretty good check.
In this coming year, I am going to work on some past wounds that are ready to be healed on a deeper level. Our move to South Florida dredged up some major shit and I am still sifting through it all. I want to clearly define my triggers, coping mechanisms and hopefully fight with my husband less. I want to be more conscious of the times I am seething with rage because he didn’t wash the dishes like he was supposed to, and remember that the rage is coming from somewhere else. I want to be more conscious of the fact that it is not about the dishes!
Emotional Health. My emotional health goals for the past year were to keep my connection to Penelope strong even as she becomes a little girl and as she grows more independent. I am so blessed to have an amazing relationship with her. It truly speaks volumes about how much personal work and healing I have done. Our relationship continues to be rock solid and a beautiful thing. Not so much with my husband. As I have mentioned before, we have always had a difficult relationship despite us being together and loyal for 10 years, it’s just always been contentious and difficult. I want to spend 2014 working on my marriage, so I guess both mental and emotional health will be about that this year.
Financial Health. My goals last year for financial health were to double my income and I did it! It feels like a full-on miracle and I am beyond thrilled I pulled it off. Obviously I couldn’t do it without you all supporting me, but I worked extremely hard both on the outer work-what I was producing on this site and inner work-my patterns and beliefs about money and how much I am capable of earning and saving. 2013 was the first time I paid attention to every single penny I spent and got a real idea of how much I was spending on different categories. I am not where I would like to be yet on the spending and saving, but at least I am now able to account for every penny coming in and going out. Before, I just kind of had my head in the sand about money and did not have the courage to even look at my finances.
This year my goal is the same; I want to double my income again. I am super excited about the new books and classes (some amazing live workshops coming down the pipe soon!) that will be coming out this year to help me reach that goal. I am excited about what our life will be like if I can double my income. We want to get out of our dinky rental house and build an eco-friendly house to call our own. My husband has always dreamed of being able to work less (he usually works 55 hours a week and travels a bunch) and maybe start his own company one day. If I can raise my income, I could take some of the pressure off him and so that he can follow his dreams, too. He has always been the one to hold down a real job and support our family so I could do what I wanted, and being able to give him the gift he has given me would be amazing.
I hope everyone has a happy, healthy and prosperous New Year and I pray that 2014 is our Best Year Yet!! What are some of your goals for 2014??