I don’t know about you, but as a mom with a two year old, I spend many days feeling run-down, burnt-out, draggin’-ass tired. That directly affects my appearance.
The problem is that when I looked around for ways to spruce up my everyday look without going crazy, I couldn’t find many options. Have you seen the makeup aisle lately? It’s a wall of chemicals! Plus, I’m actually not really into smearing stuff all over my face every day, either.
Now don’t get me wrong – I don’t hate makeup. I still have a small selection of eyeshadows and other natural makeup to prettify myself for special occasions. And I can say without a doubt that if I was doing what Stephanie does every day – promoting books, speaking at events, and making TV appearances – I would be caked in the stuff. Going to the grocery store and going on camera are very, very different things!
Want to know how to look good without makeup? I’ve got a few things to share with you.
Your health directly impacts your appearance. A lot of the physical appearance problems that are blamed on poor hygiene or genetics are actually things you can totally eliminate with diet.
Acne, dingy hair, stained teeth, or dry lips can best be resolved with a whole foods diet rich in healthy fats, clean proteins, and plenty of produce. I know because I have suffered through many years of those exact problems before just a few healthy changes started to turn all that around.
My biggest triumph was when the darkness under my eyes and around my mouth started to clear up. I found out that it was both a hormone problem and an allergy to wheat that was causing the skin discoloration. That simple diet change has caused a dramatic improvement in my overall appearance.
I’m not claiming to be a shining example of health, I still have a lot of improvements to make. The point I’m trying to make is that by achieving some of my health goals and seeing that it’s possible to improve my appearance that easily, I have begun to feel beautiful.
Do you know what happens when you genuinely feel beautiful? You shine. You smile. You hold your head higher and you walk a little straighter.
Which brings me to the second key to natural beauty: confidence.
Some days I’m just not feeling the beautiful thing. Some days I just can’t be bothered to shine. On those days, I let my confidence carry me. I still smile and hold my head up because I have confidence in not only my appearance, but who I am. Beauty goes beyond your skin and hair. It also comes from within and letting your whole person shine through. Feeling beautiful leads to confidence, but feeling confident can also lead to feeling beautiful.
If you’re struggling with that confidence bit, remember that beauty is purely subjective. I see so many people, men and women, even children, who struggle with the concept that beauty cannot be objectively judged. You’re not tall enough, thin enough, blonde enough, perky enough, muscular enough – it’s never enough!
Enough compared to what?
If you are the beholder, then you have the power to say you’re beautiful; you have the power to say you are enough, period! Some people might not agree, and they might be big enough jerks to say something, but why do they matter? You are what you believe you are. If you believe you are beautiful, then you are.
Expanding your own view of what beautiful means also helps. Beauty does not mean attractiveness. It does not mean youth. It does not mean perfect genetic expression, or symmetry, or anything scientific, either.
If you break down your preconceived notions of beauty, you’ll find that there is a much broader definition than what advertising agencies and fashion moguls tell you. Wrinkles are beautiful. Grey hairs are beautiful. Chubby cheeks and thin lips are beautiful. All shades of skin are beautiful. Stretch marks and freckles are beautiful. Lumps and bumps and sagginess are beautiful. Short hair, thin hair, no hair – they’re all beautiful. You just have to be willing to see it.
Will you let yourself be beautiful?