I Hate Pregnancy: A Handy Guide for a Tough First Trimester


For my morning sickness sisters, it’s easy to wonder in the midst of your misery, “is this even worth it?” Take heart. I promise it is. Feeling those little kicks and flutters in the second trimester help me remember the whole point: a new precious life. A friend of mine kept an ultrasound picture of her baby in her bathroom so she could remind herself why she was going through the miseries of pregnancy each time she had a vomiting episode. Reaching the enjoyable and energetic weeks 20-27 before the discomfort of the third trimester hits give me a chance to pull myself together and get some perspective. No matter how dreadful I felt during my pregnancy, on the miraculous day that I meet my sweet baby, I always look back on the past nine months and think, “Oh that? That was nothing, little one. I’d do it again for you in a heartbeat.”

Now, would you just remind me of that truth as I enter the sleepy, uncomfortable, puffy third trimester in which I usually get so huge that well-meaning strangers pat my shoulder and say, “Any day now!” when I’m still two months from my due date? Thanks.

Do you struggle with morning sickness during pregnancy? What are your pregnancy survival tips?

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About the Author

Haley is a Catholic wife and mama of three little ones, ballet teacher, and lover of all things Jane Austen, Evelyn Waugh, and Wendell Berry. Find her at Carrots for Michaelmas where she writes about urban homesteading, motherhood, literature, faith, homeschooling, and her undying love for bacon.

Comments

  1. Acupuncture! I’m pretty sure it shortened the duration of my nausea and vomiting.

    • Great advice! I tried acupuncture for the first time when I was trying to avoid an induction (my second baby was almost two weeks late!) and it worked like a charm: I started having contractions on the table! So I’m a believer now and I really should try that if I have terrible morning sickness for my next pregnancy (God willing we’re blessed with more little ones).

  2. Thank you for your honesty! So glad someone else knows the pain or morning sickness. Mine was more light morning, noon, and night sickness. I averaged getting sick about 15 times a day :( the only thing that got me through the day was egg and cheese biscuits from McDonalds. I also kept a ultrasound picture in the bathroom to remind my self why I didn’t hate my life. I continued having morning sickness until the moment I delivered. It was like once that baby was out the nausea went away.

    • So funny that you mention those breakfast sandwiches! When I’m not pregnant I’m a super healthy eater but for morning sickness, a fast food breakfast sandwich is my greatest craving and it really does help the nausea. I’m glad I’m not the only one! And I don’t know why it helps because when I make high protein breakfasts or even breakfast sandwiches at my house it doesn’t satisfy the cravings and kick the nausea like a fast food bfast sandwich does. So weird!

      • It is weird! We have chickens and all the fresh eggs we want but they do not do the trick. My doctor was the one who suggested McDonalds because she had other patients suggest them. Since that was the only thing I could eat and still throwing up I had to eat 3, 000 calories a day of them hoping I could keep something down. It took me 3 years before I could eat them again.

  3. This is a great post – thank you! I always reminded myself that others had it far worse than me..I mean, I didn’t even vomit blood once! ;) I think it’s a great point that we should ‘make hay while the sun shines’ because before you know it you’re into the next phase and you might have missed a golden opportunity to make meals, clean out the fridge, etc.

    • Thank you, Rene! I always psyche myself up into thinking I’ve got it THE WORST and then i think of my friends who had to be hospitalized with IVs to survive their pregnancies and I feel like a big whiner. Speaking of making hay while the sun shines, I need to start filling my freezer with meals for post-partum before the third trimester fatigue really kicks into gear!

  4. My first pregnancy I had no morning sickness at all, but I got horrific preeclampsia, 2 weeks in the ICU for me, and 67 days in a NICU with my baby, who was born at 28 weeks while my blood pressure hit 210/190. Second time, I was nauseous ALL THE TIME for three months. Morning, afternoon, and night sickness, the kind where you wish you could vomit but never do … but, trust me, I’d much rather that than pre-e again (and, thank goodness, I didn’t have to deal with pre-e again – Baby #2 was born at full term). Every pregnancy has its own challenges and struggles, of course, but I actually liked the reminder that my pregnancy was progressing normally when I had normal things like morning sickness the second time around.

  5. My holistic practitioner told me that I could use vitamin B-6 pills for acute nausea, if needed. Swanson Vitamins sells them… hopefully that helps someone!

  6. I am 10 weeks pregnant and absolutely miserable. Have been to the ER several times to get fluids because I can’t keep anything down:(.. Definitely feels like a never ending journey right now! My doctor gave me zofran but its not really helping. I wear my dorky sea bands constantly and I think I’ve tried every single home remedy ever thought of without relief. Hoping this all ends soon!

    • Look up my post on magnesium, there is new research that suggest that morning sickness, especially the kind that last the entire pregnancy is from a magnesium defeciency.

  7. I’m on week 6 and while the nausea comes and goes in waves so far, only making me puke once or twice a day, the exhaustion and emotional roller coaster and food aversions are the worst for me. This was a planned pregnancy- one planned by very very naive people who thought it be fun and pleasant for some reason. I cry every single day without fail, lose my shit over absolutely nothing constantly, and can’t seem to get my blood sugar stable. One minute I’m starving and dying, then eat 3 bites, nauseated, then don’t eat, starving and acid reflux. Then I’m crying over the toilet barfing and hysterical- why did no one talk about how absolutely horrible this was going to be?! They all lied. They said I’d be glowing. They said it’d be a happy time. I’ve never been more of a raving lunatic in my life and I’ve got how many more weeks of this?! How exactly am I expected to do my job as I’m sobbing at my desk for the third time today?! I HATE FIRST TRIMESTER! Also thank you for speaking truthfully about how hard and crappy this is. I wish more people would.

    • I love you! This is exactly how I feel.

    • I feel you to the tee. In the same predicament and I feel scammed.

    • Omg, yes!! I feel like I have been lied to. It is so, so much worse than I imagined. For me it seems to be getting worse. The thing I can’t stand the most is being hungry, which I am all the time. But the cruel thing is I can’t eat anything! And if I haven’t eaten then I just throw up and if I do eat I still throw up. The worst thing is, is I’m in my first semester of grad school, and I have zero money. I am so sad and sick all the time.

    • Yeah she hit it head on. Im 6 weeks and Im always super hungry but the smell of anything other than water makes me nauseous. I dont like this one bit. Then I feel bad because I know this can’t be healthy for the baby… I want to eat but I just cant. Ive been drinking Ensure which is actually helping boost my enery, but food seems far fetched right now.

    • Miserable Mom-to-be says:

      Omg you have put every one of my emotions into words right now :(!!! As I write this in the dark, miserable, on my iPhone in bed at 5:30 in the morning—woken up once again by nausea, migraine, stomach cramping and overall misery! I feel lied to as well my friend! This absolutely sucks & I feel no one can help me! Praying to God the misery ends soon and I can be that glowing happy pregnant lady everyone always talked about….

    • ı am feeling exactly the same. ı hate it

  8. I too have hypermesis. I threw up nothing but bile and streaks of blood for the days and lost 4 pounds. I’m only 100 pounds. I tried everything. Doc gave me a shot of zofran and pills. They take a lot of the edge off but make my IBS constipation unbearable. I didn’t sleep at all last night due to it. I didn’t eat all day today and the nausea is back. I’m high risk as well due to incompetent cervix. This is my 7th pregnancy. I have one living daughter who is three that I can’t even take care of right now. We are broke because dh was laid of and we have to move. DD has to stay with my mom until we get settled. I haven’t even gotten a sonogram yet at 12 weeks. Live on a remote island with no prenatal care. To go to my ob its a three hour trek with a ferry ride. All I can do is try to eat and not throw up and cry. I even considered terminating the pregnancy I’m so miserable and I’m pro life. I wish there was a light at the end of my tunnel but with five dead children due to stillbirth and miscarriage its looking grim with all the pain and nausea. I just need a break…

  9. My first trimester is completely terrible. I throw up at least 9 times a day , every single time I eat. I work fast-food . I was taking orders and felt as if I was gonna barf or pass out on my customers . I’m 8 weeks and get my first ultrasound Monday . my dr told me to eat hard candy , chew peppermint gum and etc. But it still don’t work . any suggestions?

  10. Holy cow it’s nice to know I’m not the only crazy person in the room! I thought getting pregnant would be fun. I thought getting pregnant would be exciting. It’s none of those things. It’s absolutely miserable and every person I complain to says “oh, it’s all worth it in the end” honestly I just want to punch them in the mouth. I’m 8 weeks and so far every aspect of this experience has been absolutely awful. I have morning sickness all day, heartburn, random nasty headaches, I’m freaking tired all the darn time the list goes on and on. I honestly cannot wait for this to be over because so far this has been an absolute nightmare!

  11. Thank goodness I’m not the only one feeling like this. I’m about 6weeks pregnant with tons of sickness. I get nauseated like crazy, sometimes have heartburn so terrible that I cry. I’ve also being spitting excessively. Don’t know why I couldn’t be among the lucky ones that don’t feel this miserable during pregnancy. So annoying and to crown it all I hardly sleep.i keep thinking of the other weeks I still have go thru this. My first baby was also like this. I just pray the weeks roll by faster cos I feel my 2nd trimester will be a lot better than this.# hopefully#. Well girls these are the sacrifices we do to be mothers. I pray for God’s strength to go thru this. One Luv u all.

  12. Thank God for all of you beautiful women! I am sitting here crying my eyes out because I am physically exhausted. Everything I have gone through so far has been utterly miserable and I am now 10 weeks and a few days. I first started my symptoms 5 weeks in and it has been so hard ever since. I literally pray every night “Please, please God give me the strength to make it through the day.” I’ve had to go to the ER already a few times, I can’t use the bathroom, my mouth constantly has saliva, I am puking constantly and all I want to do is eat. I’m so hungry, so thirsty, but the thought of putting anything in my mouth makes me want to gag. I’m so exhausted and like everyone said, looking at my ultrasound picture or looking at the baby apps pictures of the “baby now” definitely helps. I’ve tried everything and spent so much money on different foods, teas, candies, snacks and nothing seems to help. :-( Tonight I find it mentally challenging and some of these posts on here are older so it gives me strength knowing you all have made it through. someone mentioned terminating the pregnancy was a thought because they were so miserable. Tonight the thought came across and I feel so awful because we actually have been trying for 5 years. We actually gave up the thought of having a baby. So I need the courage to make it through. I keep telling myself I’ve got this. I’ve taken 2 weeks off of work in hopes I would feel better. Tomorrow I’m suppose to return to work and Im not better at all and now it seems mentally after all this time it’s taking a toll. Thank you everyone for your stories and giving me some hope. I will wipe my tears, pray and remember the outcome is well worth this misery. Hopefully a few more weeks and I will feel better, I can eat and drink and this nausea will go away. Ugghhhh I am so hungry! Good night everyone and thank you all again for being so honest.

    • I am between 5-6 weeks and miserable the last few days. Emotionally and physically exhausted and feel like I could crawl out of my skin. I feel so bad because I am so short with my fiancé. I am glad to know that we aren’t the only ones feeling so lousy. Here’s hoping the 2nd trimester is a walk in the park. Hang in there!

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