As someone who has been a Certified Doula for almost a decade now (I haven’t taken on clients for years though) I am thrilled Becky is hiring a Doula! She is correct, it is money well spent. We all know the age old stats, births with Doulas have better “outcomes” but it is also just really nice to have someone in attendance who is initiated in birth and who knows what the hell is going on. You can’t ask your husband if it’s normal that you just puked, or if you feel like you insides are ripping, but you can ask a Doula! And its nice to have someone you can boss around. You may feel inhibited to yell NO! at your husband when he asks if you want a sip of water, but you feel comfortable enough yell your Doula. And that is important! Having the ability to feel safe and open to be and say what you want to say and do is what gets the baby out. -Stephanie
A few weeks ago I wrote a post about deciding between a hospital birth versus a home birth for my first child. I’m now 23 weeks along and after much thoughtful consideration, my husband and I have decided to labor at home and then have a natural birth at Cedars-Sinai hospital in Beverly Hills. The main reason is that our insurance will cover the cost and our bank account can’t currently support alternative options in our area…at least this time around. But despite budgetary constraints, we are committed to splurging on a doula.
I want a doula because I don’t want to kill my sweet, sensitive husband. Although he’s acquired much knowledge on the topic of laboring, he may unknowingly botch something trivial or I’ll catch him habitually checking his fantasy football score, which may trigger my irrational, hormonal self to primally lash out. And that’s just nasty.
So it’s time to bring a professional on board for Operation Bust Baby Out. Someone who can astutely guide me and the hubs. Someone with experience to shush my inner control freak so I can relax and allow myself to open for baby. Someone who will support my choice for a drug-free hospital birth.
My to-doula list includes labor coaching, massage, aromatherapy, breastfeeding support, and newborn support. Since I’m personally not comfortable involving my parents or in-laws for the first few days (maybe even weeks) of bonding, I will also rely heavily on my doula for emotional support. I believe the $500 to $1200 we may spend is well worth our sanity.
Please share any experiences you have had with a doula. I’m interested to hear how she may have impacted your labor and delivery.